Things to do when you feel lonely (but love being alone)

A guide for intentional loners who crave connection but cherish their solitude

This is for the person that spends most of their time alone. The one who doesn’t want to go out, but still wants to be invited. The one who works from home, is newly sober or has a small, cherished circle of friends. Despite choosing this life you might, like me, have this vague feeling that you’re missing out on something ‘big’ and magical.

This essay is about how I fiercely protect my solitude while remaining connected to the magical pulse of life - a guide of the tiny practices I use to spark connection and weave it into my days - as someone who loves people but also ADORES being alone.

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The Joy of Solitude

Solitude is my fucking medicine.

As a teenager, my mum would worry that there was something wrong with me because of how much time I spent in my bedroom. But I always lovingly assured her with VIBRANT enthusiasm, that it’s where I was my happiest; alone, drawing and writing in my little pink room, dreaming up beautiful worlds in my head that I wanted to bring to life.